3 Vital Questions Review
I put together this review in order to go over the book with our interns. This was the first book I've gone through and actually pulled apart and this is one of the outcomes of that process was to generate this review.
If you want a less guided tour, you can checkout the The Empowerment Dynamic map instead.
- Understand the 3 Vital Questions
- Know the difference between Problem versus Outcome Orientations
- Identify your Reactive Triggers and Strategies
Gallup research indicates that there’s approximately $500 billion in lost productivity annually, in the United States alone, due to negative behavior in organizations. Other research has estimated that managers spend as much as 40% of their time dealing with conflict and drama. (Location 74) #✂️
Three dimensions of work
Three Dimensions of Work
An observation by Douglas Engelbart that every organization has three dimensions of work. Where each affect the next one down.[1]
- The way we think about how we think, interact, and take action - The design and implementation of the systems, process, and structures that enable work to be done - The production and delivery of products or services
3 Vital Questions focuses on the first bullet.
References
The article referred to these three dimensions simply as A, B, and C (see also Diagram 1): The production and delivery of products and/or services. This is “the work” we engage in to serve our customers and clients. The design and implementation of the systems, processes, and structures that enable the work to be done. The primary responsibility for this dimension is held by management. The way we think about how we think, interact, and take action. To quote Senge’s article, “Ultimately, the quality of [this] work determines the quality of the systems and processes [that organizations] design and the products and services [they] provide” (p. 35). This is the work of leadership—which can include anyone, anywhere in the organization. (Location 112) #✂️
Theory of Employee Motivation
Theory of Employee Motivation
Proposed by Douglas McGregor, the theory focuses on employee motivation that addresses thinking about how we think, interact, and act. It is composed of Theory X and Theory Y.[1:1]
References
Douglas McGregor, at MIT’s Sloan School of Management in the 1940s, developed a theory of employee motivation that addresses thinking about how we think, interact, and act. He called it, simply, Theory X and Theory Y. (Location 122) #✂️
Theory X
Theory X
Douglas McGregor's theory of employee motivation that implies that people are basically lazy and will avoid work if they can and so they need to be controlled and threatened if they do not perform. Employees are seen as Problems.[1:2]
References
Theory X sees employees (and co-workers) as problems. It assumes that people are basically lazy and will avoid work if they can, so they need to be controlled and threatened with punishment if they do not perform. (Location 124) #✂️
Theory Y
Theory Y
Douglas McGregor's theory of employee motivation that assumes that employees are inherently self-motivated and seek out work to create products and services that meet the needs of others.[1:3]
References
Theory Y, on the other hand, assumes that employees and co-workers are inherently self-motivated and seek out work and responsibility that satisfies their desire to create products and services that meet the needs of others. (Location 128) #✂️
Change initiatives fail because we focus on the wrong dimension
Change Initiatives Fail Because We Focus on the Wrong Dimension
David Emerald contends that because we focus on
and not
change initiatives tend to fail.[1:4]
References
And here it is, the fundamental reason: most change initiatives are rooted in dimension B—management’s systems, processes and structures—without any consideration for, let alone work within, dimension C, which is how we’re thinking about how we work. (Location 134) #✂️
Vital Question 1
Vital Question 1
Where are you putting your focus ? On problems or outcomes?[1:5]
This question prompts us to upgrade our Problem Orientation to an Outcome Orientation.[2]
References
Question 1. Where are you putting your focus? Are you focusing on problems or on outcomes? Question 2. How are you relating? How are you relating to others, to your experience, and even to yourself? Are you relating in ways that produce or perpetuate drama, or in ways that empower others and yourself to be more resourceful, resilient, and innovative? Question 3. What actions are you taking? Are you merely reacting to the problems of the moment, or are you taking creative and generative action—including the solving of problems—in service to outcomes? (Location 150) #✂️
The key to this first vital question is to upgrade to the Outcome Orientation as your primary way of thinking, here at work and, really, throughout your life.” (Location 428) #✂️
Vital Question 2
Vital Question 2
How are you relating?
How are you relating to others, to your experience and yourself? Are you relating in ways that produce or perpetuate drama, or in ways that empower others and yourself to be more resourceful, resilient and innovative?[1:6]
There are several layers to this question:[2:1]
- How are you relating to other people?
- How are you relating to what is going on in your life?
- How are you relating to yourself?
References
Question 1. Where are you putting your focus? Are you focusing on problems or on outcomes? Question 2. How are you relating? How are you relating to others, to your experience, and even to yourself? Are you relating in ways that produce or perpetuate drama, or in ways that empower others and yourself to be more resourceful, resilient, and innovative? Question 3. What actions are you taking? Are you merely reacting to the problems of the moment, or are you taking creative and generative action—including the solving of problems—in service to outcomes? (Location 150) #✂️
One is, How are you relating to other people? Another is, How are you relating to what is going on in your life? And the third is, How you are relating to yourself? “The key here is, are you relating in ways that are going to produce or perpetuate drama, or are you relating in ways that empower yourself and others to be more resourceful, resilient, and innovative?” (Location 822) #✂️
Vital Question 3
Vital Question 3
What actions are you taking?
Are you merely reacting to the Problems of the moment, or are you taking creative and generative action, including the solving of problems, in service to outcomes?[1:7]
References
Question 1. Where are you putting your focus? Are you focusing on problems or on outcomes? Question 2. How are you relating? How are you relating to others, to your experience, and even to yourself? Are you relating in ways that produce or perpetuate drama, or in ways that empower others and yourself to be more resourceful, resilient, and innovative? Question 3. What actions are you taking? Are you merely reacting to the problems of the moment, or are you taking creative and generative action—including the solving of problems—in service to outcomes? (Location 150) #✂️
FISBE
FISBE
An acronym that describes how a human operates.[1:8]
References
“The F in FISBE stands for focus,” he said, writing the word in the top circle, “and this focus sets up the rest of the operating system. That’s because whatever you focus on, that’s what gets your inner state going. (Location 308) #✂️
Problem Orientation
Problem Orientation
The default mindset of most people and organizations[1:9] which focuses on Problems. Focusing on these Problems leads your Inner State to some form of anxiety, and leads your Behavior to some Reaction.
The Problem Orientation is actually a Victim Orientation because we typically feel victimized by the Problem.[2:2]
When our Anxiety raises, we react to calm our Anxiety, and when the anxiety is gone, we stop reacting. This causes a rollercoaster effect where the Problem isn't resolved.[3]
References
Problem Orientation, which is one of two primary orientations. The CEO I mentioned said that the Problem Orientation is the default mindset of most people and organizations. (Location 300) #✂️
“As you might suspect, the focus here is on problems,” he said, and he wrote Problem in the focus circle. “A problem can show up in all kinds of ways: maybe someone emails you, or calls or texts you. Or maybe someone walks into your office and starts talking about a problem. “As you take in this new information as a problem,” said Ted, “your inner state arises—and that’s going to be some kind of anxiety.” Ted wrote Anxiety in the inner state circle. “Then, depending on how bad you think the problem is, your anxiety could be anything from a little irritation to intense fear. Either way, the inner state of anxiety will trigger you into action. “This action you take—that’s your behavior, of course—is some form of reaction. (Location 349) #✂️
the Problem Orientation is actually a Victim Orientation, because usually we feel victimized by the problems we’re reacting to. On the other hand, the Outcome Orientation is really a Creator Orientation, from which you create outcomes and the baby steps you’ll take to accomplish those outcomes. (Location 813) #✂️
Problem
Problem
Problems do not just go away. Problems will always be there. [1:10][2:3]
References
“The false hope is that if you can just solve the problem, then everything will be okay … or that you’ll then be able to focus on something more important. Right?” (Location 382) #✂️
“Another problem. Seems like there’s always a new issue lurking under the last one. I’m just waiting for the next incoming problem!” “And that’s why it’s a false hope that problems will go away,” (Location 386) #✂️
Anxiety
Anxiety
Anxiety drives your Behavior in the Problem Orientation the Problem itself.[1:11]
References
“You’re telling yourself you’re reacting to the problem, when really you’re reacting to the anxiety you feel about the problem. If you didn’t feel some level of anxiety, you’d let the situation pass on by. The false assumption is that the problem is driving this operating system. But it isn’t—the Problem Orientation, the operating system, only sets it in motion. It’s actually your anxiety that’s driving the whole shebang.” (Location 375) #✂️
Reaction
Reaction
A Behavior caused by Anxiety in your Inner State from a Problem in your Focus. The four reactions are fight, flight, freeze or appease.[1:12]
Reactions are driven by your need to reduce your Anxiety, not removing the Problem.[2:4]
References
There are four ways you might react: fight, flight, freeze, or appease.” (Location 354) #✂️
“You’re telling yourself you’re reacting to the problem, when really you’re reacting to the anxiety you feel about the problem. If you didn’t feel some level of anxiety, you’d let the situation pass on by. The false assumption is that the problem is driving this operating system. But it isn’t—the Problem Orientation, the operating system, only sets it in motion. It’s actually your anxiety that’s driving the whole shebang.” (Location 375) #✂️
Outcome Orientation
Outcome Orientation
Outcome orientation is focused on envisioning an Outcome you really care about which causes an Inner State of Passion which gets you thinking about what Baby Step you need to take to get that outcome.[1:13]
Each Baby Step you take will either get you closer or clearer about your outcome, nothing you do is neutral. This is Results focused.
References
“In this orientation, you have a much different focus. Here your thinking is oriented toward envisioning an outcome. Sometimes the outcome you have in mind is clear—you know almost exactly what it is and how you want it to happen. Other times this outcome may be somewhat vague in your mind, but you have a general idea of the direction you’re heading. (Location 401) #✂️
Outcome
Outcome
Something you want that creates a Passion for you to take a Baby Step towards that outcome. The main focus of the Outcome Orientation.[1:14]
References
“What’s important is that you care about the outcome you envision. Because when you really care about it, that ignites an inner state of passion,” said Ted, and he wrote the word Passion in the inner state circle. In the behavior circle he wrote Baby Step, then turned to face Lucas. (Location 404) #✂️
Passion
Passion
The Inner State produced when someone cares about the Outcome they are focused on.[1:15][2:5]
References
“What’s important is that you care about the outcome you envision. Because when you really care about it, that ignites an inner state of passion,” said Ted, and he wrote the word Passion in the inner state circle. In the behavior circle he wrote Baby Step, then turned to face Lucas. (Location 404) #✂️
“That passion,” he continued, “provides the motivational fuel to take the next step in your process toward creating the outcome—whatever that step may be. (Location 406) #✂️
Baby Step
Baby Step
A Behavior that is a small action that takes you closer to the Outcome you want.[1:16]
References
“As you focus on your envisioned outcome, your passion goes up.” He drew a plus sign. “As your passion increases, your desire to take the next baby step increases, too.” Another plus sign. “Then, as you take that next step, you get closer to, or clearer about, the outcome”—a third plus sign on the board—“and that increases your passion and your will to take action.” (Location 516) #✂️
A.I.R.
A.I.R.
An acronym that stands for the three major distinctions between Problem Orientation and Outcome Orientation.[1:17]
References
AIR stands for three major distinctions between the two FISBEs: your attention, intention, and results. (Location 436) #✂️
Attention
Attention
Where you place your Focus.
References
“your attention begins to move naturally toward whatever it is that you do want, and what you really care about. That doesn’t mean you won’t have any more problems, but it does mean there will be a big shift in your relationship to those problems. Instead of seeing problems everywhere you look, you start taking on only the problems that need to be solved to create the outcome you want. (Location 444) #✂️
Intention
Intention
Moving away from Problems you don't want to solve and moving toward an Outcome you do want.[1:18]
References
“your intention is to move toward the outcome and, through the baby steps, or the actions you take, to bring that intention into being over time.” Lucas joined in. “So, the difference is between moving away from what you don’t want—the problem—and moving toward the outcome you do want.” (Location 457) #✂️
Result
Result
This represents how the different Outcomes conclude. Either the result is generative or cyclical.[1:19][2:6]
References
Ted added, “So anytime you find yourself faced with a situation that seems to come up over and over again—be it with a team member at work, someone in your personal life, or even within yourself—it is virtually guaranteed you’re coming at that situation from the Problem Orientation. You do something about the situation, it gets better for a while, and then sometime down the road, there it is again! (Location 496) #✂️
“As you focus on your envisioned outcome, your passion goes up.” He drew a plus sign. “As your passion increases, your desire to take the next baby step increases, too.” Another plus sign. “Then, as you take that next step, you get closer to, or clearer about, the outcome”—a third plus sign on the board—“and that increases your passion and your will to take action.” (Location 516) #✂️
Thoughts Feelings and Actions Exercise
Thoughts Feelings and Actions Exercise
An exercise in reflecting on what you're experiencing and how you're acting. If you're feeling anger, frustration or anxiety, you're likely in the Problem Orientation.[1:20]
References
“The first exercise has to do with the thoughts and feelings you experience … and the actions you take … in each of the orientations. And just a note about ‘thoughts’—they can be things you say silently to yourself as well as things you say out loud to other people,” Kasey explained. Lucas wrote “thoughts, feelings, and actions” (Location 674) #✂️
Think of a time where you experienced anxiety, anger, or frustration
- What were you thinking about?
- How did you act?
Reactive Triggers and Strategies Exercise
Reactive Triggers and Strategies Exercise
An exercise in reflecting on what things trigger you to react and what strategy you typically react with so that you can try and shift from a Problem Orientation to a Outcome Orientation.[1:21]
References
“A reactive trigger is anything or anyone that causes or activates you to react—to see that person or thing as a problem that engages some form of anxiety. Once you’re triggered, you react with a fight, flight, freeze, or appease response. Those are the reactive strategies. (Location 703) #✂️
Think of a time where you experienced anxiety, anger, or frustration
- What was happening around you?
- What reactive strategy did you default to?
Reactive Trigger
Reactive Trigger
Anything that causes you to React and use the reactive strategies.[1:22]
References
“A reactive trigger is anything or anyone that causes or activates you to react—to see that person or thing as a problem that engages some form of anxiety. Once you’re triggered, you react with a fight, flight, freeze, or appease response. Those are the reactive strategies. (Location 703) #✂️
Going up on the Balcony
Being able to step back and reflect. The more you can observe, the more you will be able to make different choices on how to respond.[1:23]
References
Being able to step back and reflect on things is really key, Lucas. Ted calls it ‘going up to the balcony.’ The more you can observe, the more you will be able to make different and more empowering choices about how to respond. It will be great to get into the habit of writing down your observations of thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and actions, as well as your reactive triggers and reactive strategies.” (Location 722) #✂️